I had just missed 4 very clear signposts. I was also wondering why some of the drivers were giving me rather strange looks as I inched my car slowly across the intersection.
Just after I made it across the intersection I heard “WOOOWOOOWOO” and saw a flashing light behind me. I didn’t miss that sign. It was a police car.
The police officer got out of her vehicle and walked up to my car. She was looking at me wild-eyed and asked me “What were you thinking?”
I was thinking about not being lost and I missed every single signpost.
She told me 1 week earlier a woman did the same thing as me. She crossed that intersection in her car and got killed. I was very lucky. I just got an expensive ticket.
2 weeks after this event I drove down to San Fran with a friend to retrace my route. I wanted to see whether there were indeed signs there or were they obstructed in some way.
Those signs were clearly there. The obstructions were in my mind. This experience taught me to “pay attention or pay with pain.” Well what has this got to do with you? You might well ask!
If you are not getting the results you want in your business or in your personal life, you may be creating the obstructions in your mind that hide the signposts of your success. You may generalize like I did with the signs (all major road signs placarded in Australia look like “X” therefore they look the same in the US.)
We know that this is not true.
I didn’t see anything that was familiar to me so I deleted and/or distorted it to fit my model of the world.
Have you ever looked at something and later you realized you were completely wrong? Yes, we’ve all done this.
Let me run something by you:
Three birds are sitting on a telephone wire up in Canada and they decide to fly south for the winter. How many birds are left on the wire?
None you say?
Well actually there are three. They decided to do it. Which is different from PHYSICALLY DOING IT, physically acting upon it. (There’s that delete, distort and generalizing again.)
We often convince ourselves that it is the same thing. We decide that something is appropriate or a good thing to do (that is our strategy) but that is as far as it goes. We don’t act upon it. However, because we decided it was a good thing to act upon we think it is the same thing as actually doing it, when in fact it is not.
On top of that what if we are driven by away from motivation? I’ve got to get this work done. I can’t forget to do that. I need to be on time. I have to earn ______ amount of money. This is the best/only time available even though it doesn’t suit me etc.
Let’s get curious, shall we?
In fact let’s get curious and excited. We’ve just discovered that there are some holes, Swiss cheese like holes in our focus, in our attention. These holes are like big gaping holes in the bridge that connects us from where we are now to where we want to be.
I’d like you to imagine that you are an archaeologist digging for buried treasure:
You are going to find where those holes are and how you can fill them. This will then allow you to successfully cross the bridge to reach your goals and desires. Here are some questions that will give you the clues you need to get to the “Treasure”.
- Why is it important for you to achieve your goal(s) in your business and in your life?
- Why is it important for you to be aware of signposts?
- What benefits are you missing out on?
- What do you miss out on because you are not paying attention to the signposts in your business and in your personal life?
How do you know this?
- What are the signposts? How do you recognize them? (For example, do you feel something in your body, do you see something or make a picture in your imagination, do you hear something or tell yourself something in your own mind?)
- What do you need to do to become more aware? What do you need to become more aware of in your business and in your personal life? How can you pay attention to create the results you want instead of paying with pain?
- What steps do you need to take in order to achieve this and maintain it as a useful tool in your life?
- Energy flows where your attention goes. Are your thoughts positive and resourceful towards what you want or not? If they are negative and away from what you want, what thoughts can you choose to have now instead? How is that affecting your results? How can you get from where you are right now to being more resourceful? What new strategies will you need to incorporate? How will they affect your outcomes? When will you know you have what you want? How can you celebrate this?
- What goals can you now achieve by doing this exercise? Have fun and see what “treasures” you can discover.