“Trade your expectation for appreciation and the world changes instantly” – Tony Robbins
“The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it shifts the world you see.” – Dr Robert Holden
After working on a financial document the other day for 2 hours I discovered that it had been done in the wrong format and I needed to re input all the data again. Argh!!!! As I began redoing it I could feel my level of frustration rise.
Have you ever had an experience like that? Just when you think you’ve finished working so you can relax and chill out, you realize that you’ve made an error, or what you’ve been working on needs a completely different format or something critical comes up that inevitably needs to be taken care of immediately and you’re back working again for several more hours.
Yes, of course you have! We all have… I have to admit I was not particularly happy about it. I was definitely feeling frustrated with it all!
Lol! Then it dawned on me that I had an expectation of what I thought I “should be doing” instead of appreciating the fact that in that moment I could indeed rectify the situation. Sure, it might take a bit of work, but so what? In the long run, this would actually benefit me. I felt my mood begin to shift. What a concept!
Tony Robbins I love you!!!!
As soon as I was caught up on my expectation, as soon as we get caught up in what we “expect to happen” and for whatever reason the expectation is not met we feel the discomfort of not having our expectations met.
Once I became aware that I was attached to the expectation of a particular outcome, in this case, “stopping work and taking time off to relax” (which generated the feeling of frustration) I began to laugh.
Those pesky expectations!!! They’ll trip you up every time!
The key to dealing with expectations is to instead “appreciate” what you have in the moment. So for example in my case, it was the ability to correct the situation and create a document that I could actually use as a template in the future that would save me time.
That I could certainly appreciate! And I felt great about being able to do this.
The wonderful thing about appreciation is that it leaves us feeling good, fulfilled like we’ve achieved something. We can stand back and take stock of all the good things that we are and have in a particular moment.
This in turn leads to the feeling of gratitude.
When I woke up the next morning, I was filled with a deep sense of gratitude. I looked out my bedroom window to see the beautiful green trees and the hills and the sun rising up over the horizon, feeling its warmth on my skin. It was one of those “perfect moments” that Nature provides and I felt my heart fill with gratitude.
Yes, I may not have had an expectation met, but WOW!!!! I was surrounded by such beauty all around me and I have been blessed with so many things and in so many ways in my life. It certainly put it all into perspective.
Gratitude for all you are and all you have, appreciation for who and what you are and all the gifts and attributes that you have, makes any expectation melt away.
There is only one moment that ever really matters and that moment is … NOW.
You can be frustrated or upset by not having an expectation met or you can stop and appreciate what you do have. You can be grateful for all the good things that exist in this moment.
The miracle of gratitude is, the more you see it, the more you appreciate who and what you are and what you have, the more great things happen for you to be grateful for. Test it out. See which one you prefer.