There are also people who have been millionaires and billionaires that have lost the lot. They’re not focused on their end result. They’re focused on a negative vision.
A negative vision is something that you want to get away from or avoid. E.g. poverty, financial insecurity, ill health or toxic relationships.
Allen Stanford at his peak had a net worth of $2 Billion. He was a former financier, and sponsor of professional sports. He was convicted of fraud in 2012, having operated an eight billion dollar Ponzi scheme, and is now serving a 110-year federal prison sentence.
When it comes to money, where are you coming from? And what are you focused on?
Here’s a written exercise where you can write down your answers to a series of questions to get an insight into what’s going on.
I want you to go back to your childhood, go back to when you were a child and then answer these questions:
- When it came to money, what type of environment were you brought up in?
Were your parents wealthy, were they semi well off, were they poor or struggling financially? What makes you come to this conclusion?
- What were some of the phrases that they used when it came to money and spending money? (E.g. money doesn’t grow on trees. We don’t have the money for that.)
- What constituted money being bad? What made money bad?
What thoughts, feelings and conditions made money bad? What were the conforming tendencies regarding money from your parents, family, culture, community, society, religion, etc.?
(E.g. Lack, manipulation, evil, greed, have not, feeling powerless etc.)
- What made money good?
What thoughts, feelings and conditions made money good? What were the conforming tendencies that made money good from your parents, family, culture, community, society, religion, etc.?
(E.g. you could buy things, power, control, validation)
- What were the consequences for money being bad, what were the rewards for money being good?
- Now as an adult what consequences do you believe there will be if your current money situation is bad?
- How do you judge yourself and others by virtue of your concept of money being good and bad?
From your answers to these questions what insights are you getting, what’s landing? How is this still having an impact on you today?
Let me ask you another question. If you were required to spend US$1,500 in tipping people in the next 7 days what would your reaction be? (Your honest reaction.)
Notice what comes up for you. Do you want to hang onto it, do you want to control it? Do you want to make sure you don’t lose it?
Do you become aloof and say, “I don’t care?” Does money oscillate, does it come and go?
Do you think that you’re not worthy or good enough to have money? You’re not allowed to be capable, you’re not allowed to be an authority, so you can’t have what you want. You’re not powerful enough to command money? What’s coming up? What thoughts are you thinking and what emotions are coming up? What are you feeling?
Money is simply an energy. It’s a vibration and has a frequency. Your answers to the questions above will give you an indication about what beliefs you have running and how that impacts the flow of money and abundance in your life.
Money is meant to be circulated. It’s an energy, just like love. It is meant to flow.
Giving tips, tithing, giving with gratitude for services rendered, investing in your experiences, investing in your future, investing in your education, investing in property, investing in your family, investing in your community, investing in your heart and what you love …means that money will flow so that others get to experience the joy that you have experienced from it.
Here’s a story about the last thing I got from my Dad before he passed away. He gave me a little white envelope which contained a letter and 2 x US$100 bills.
Each bill was only worth $100 but to me they were priceless because they were from my Dad, given with love and they were the last piece of him that I had while he was still alive.
I carried those bills around with me in my purse. Until one day about a year later, I went to a movie and I thought I’d pulled out a $20 bill but in fact it was one of my $100 bills.
When I went back to the cashier to retrieve it, the $100 bill was gone. It had been taken away.
At first I was really upset that I had inadvertently lost it. I should have taken better care of it. How could have I made such a mistake, but then a couple of days later an intuition came to me. I hadn’t lost it and it wasn’t a mistake. It was meant to be circulated. One $100 bill got to stay with me as a reminder of my Dad and his love & generosity and the other got to circulated around the US and around the world spreading the joy and love that I got from Dad. And that is priceless.
If you’re wondering if I still have my Dad’s $100 bill the answer is, “Yes.” To make sure that I would always recognize it, I wrote “Dad” on it with a pink marker.
About a year and a half after Dad passed away, my life partner James was experiencing some financial difficulties. I reached into my purse and took out my Dad’s $100 bill and gave it to him.
He said, “I can’t take that. It’s your Dad’s $100 bill.
But I insisted and said, “you need it. So it’s yours.”
He took the $100 bill and for a moment he stood quietly, just holding it. Then all of a sudden a flash of insight came to him and he had a big smile on his face.
He said, “I know what to do. I don’t need this anymore. Thanks baby!” and he handed me back the $100 bill.
The best part of being a gift is giving it away. Money, like love is a gift meant to be shared. It will always come back to you 10 fold.
What are you investing in? Your dream, your vision, your legacy, your heart or not losing, not letting go of money or trying to control money. If you’re trying to hang onto it, how’s that working out for you?
The truth is there is no limit to what you can create when it comes to money. There is always a choice. You get to choose what you’re investing in. Invest it wisely!
