Being “At Cause” means that we are 100% responsible for what we think, what we say and what we do. It is where we are held accountable for all our actions.
Being “In Effect” means we are not taking responsibility/accountability for our actions. We make excuses that it is something outside of our control.
In life everything we do is a choice. Put another way, we choose to do everything whether it is consciously or unconsciously.
All of our behavior is based upon our emotional states. Furthermore, our emotions depend upon the meaning we ascribe to things around us in our world.
The meaning is colored and flavored by our internal filter system which in turn contains all our memories, values, beliefs, attitudes and everything else that influences us which we have been storing and accumulating since birth. Perhaps even from conception and beyond that. As we contain DNA that is millions of years old, it is conceivable that contained in the DNA are the memories and filtering system from our entire gene pool.
Coupled with this, it is estimated that we use 1 –5 % of our brain consciously. The other 95 -99% is unconscious.
No wonder we are not always aware of why we respond/react to our environment the way we do.
How do we become more at cause and less in effect? How do we become more responsible for/more conscious of our actions?
By knowing the following:
1. Our perceptions and all that we believe to be are simply “constructs of the mind.” They are a fabricated reality based upon all of our previous experiences. Our perceptions are merely projections of who we are and are subject to change and grow as we do. If we are open to expanding the boundary conditions of our mind (i.e. our thinking, our awareness) through knowledge* and education* our perceptions changes and so therefore does our world.
2. If we are willing to grow and expand our mindset we increase:
a) Our understanding
b) The skills and tool sets we have in dealing with our world
c) Our ability to refine the strategies we use to be more effective and efficient
d) Our choices
e) The opportunities to create more growth and expansion
3. We can change the meaning we ascribe to everything in our life – whether it outside of our self or within. In essence, we reframe our thoughts to a more resourceful way of thinking.
4. If we change the meaning to one that is more positive and resourceful we automatically change the associated emotional states and the inherent behavior (our actions) that we take.
5. If we are experiencing a negative emotional state (an un-resourceful state) we do have a choice to respond/react to it or not. Rather than using our negative emotions as a platform to springboard our reactive behavior (procrastination, avoidance, denial, complaining, being stuck etc.) we can instead use these states as a form of feedback.
a) View a negative emotion as valuable information. It is a signal or warning that something within our unconscious mind needs our attention. (In the same vein, when a smoke alarm in our house emits a high pitched sound, it is a warning that something needs our immediate attention.)
b) Use this as a tool for self-discovery.
c) Uncover limiting decisions/beliefs, in-congruencies and defective strategies hidden in the unconscious. These are bound to our negative emotions. They directly correlate to the action or non- action we take.
d) Utilize techniques that eradicate these limiting decisions/beliefs, in-congruencies and un-resourceful strategies.
e) Adopt new resourceful states and behaviors.
6. By removing un-resourceful states and/or creating direct access to resourceful states we increase our repertoire of choice. We have the choice to take actions that can move us forward toward what we want in life rather than away from it.
All of the above allows us to be more at cause. It also makes us more consciously aware of the action or lack of action that we take.
By being responsible we become empowered to be in charge of the results we achieve in our lives.
Here are a series of questions that give you insights into what you are currently choosing to do and whether you are moving toward being at cause or not. You can then discover whether your actions are moving you towards or away from what you want.
Why did you choose the emotional states you are currently experiencing?
Why did you choose the “excuse(s)” you made to avoid doing a task or taking action?
If you chose to “not show up” for something (non action) where else in your life to you choose not to show up, avoid, justify or make excuses? How is it working for you now?
What could you be doing instead?
What opportunities are you missing out on/not seeing because you are choosing not to take action (i.e. making excuses)?
What are you choosing to see/do at the expense of choosing what you don’t want to see/do? How does that affect your life now?
How much time are you spending each day choosing to justify or pursue your excuses rather than take action? What could you have achieved already if you chose to simply take action? What will you choose to do next time instead?
How will you know the benefits of an action if you never do it?
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. If taking action towards achieving your goal has long-term effects of creating positive changes and results in your life what are the long-term effects of not taking action towards your goal?
What do you gain by not taking action? What don’t you gain by doing this?
How could you achieve this gain by choosing to take action (be successful in the achievement of your goal) instead?