Excuses. We all have them. There are reasons why we, why you don’t follow through with actions, steps and things in order to create what you want.
Here are some of them: I’m not good enough. I don’t have enough to create what I want. Who am I to do this? I’m not smart enough. I don’t know how to do it. I don’t have the credentials. I’m not attractive enough. I’m too young. I’m too old.
I don’t have the money. I don’t have enough money yet. I have to earn the money first before I can have what I want.
It’s too hard. It’s too difficult. It’s not worth it. I don’t want to change. I don’t want to deal with any conflict. It’s not the right time.
I don’t have the time. I don’t have the time to create what I want. I’m too busy, too tired, too stressed, too overworked. I don’t have the energy. I’m a parent, I’m a husband, I’m a wife I’m the sole breadwinner. People rely on me I can’t let them down. I don’t have the freedom to just do what I want. I don’t want to be selfish.
I don’t have a partner. I don’t have anyone to share my life with.
I don’t feel like it. I don’t feel like a winner. I feel like a loser. I don’t have what it takes. I’m scared. I’m incapable. I’ll be a failure. I’ll lose everything. I don’t want to fail. I don’t want to make mistakes. I don’t want to be wrong. I don’t want to be judged. I don’t want to be hurt. What will other people think of me? What will happen if I stand out and I am successful?
I forgot. I lost my homework. I lost my to do list. I didn’t put it on my calendar. The time just slipped away.
Other things/other people have higher priority than me and what I want to create.
I don’t belong to the “Happening Crowd” – I’m insignificant, I don’t matter, I’m not the authority, I’m not worthy. I’ve got to take care of everyone else first because they matter more than me. I’ve got to fix things, I need to be the rescuer, the savior, the helper, the martyr. I’ve got to get it right. I’ve got to be right. I’ve got to test it out first… It’s got to be perfect otherwise I’m not doing it. I’ve got to be perfect. I’ve got to be safe first and the list keeps going on.
There are a myriad of reasons and excuses as to why you can’t.
Let’s investigate what’s going on and the excuses you are making that support you in believing why you can’t have what you want.
The truth is you’re not always 100% invested in your end result or outcome. Now you may take umbrage with this. However, just remember it’s just information. It doesn’t mean anything. The only meaning is the meaning that you are assigning to it.
What’s causing this? There may be denial about what’s really going on or you may be hiding what’s really going on. An avoidance of the truth. “Yeah it’s all going good.” There’s a glossing over of what’s really going on.
You’ll unconsciously compromise, negotiate with yourself and make up excuses as to why you can’t have the end results you want. You’ll either dumb down your end results, I don’t really want that, I’ll go for 50% of that instead or you’ll simply stop going for it all together. I didn’t really want that anyway.
Right now you may be operating at 75%, 80%, 95% or even 99% and you are definitely way ahead of the curve and something huge happens when you operate at 100% and there are no excuses and you make the outcomes you desire non-negotiable.
Using water as an example, here’s what happens when it is operating at less than 100% and then once it hits 100%.
Water is a liquid at room temperature but something extraordinary happens when it hits the 100% mark which is 100 degrees Celsius/212 degrees Fahrenheit. It starts boiling. It changes state. It changes from a liquid to a gas. It becomes steam/water vapor and now it has huge power that can move electric turbines, generate electricity over thousands of miles and it can move a locomotive engine and more.
Up until it hits that 100% mark , it might be lukewarm water, it might be warm water, it might be hot water, but nothing changes.
As soon as it hits that tipping point that 212 degree threshold, “Boom” it becomes a force of Nature.
The same goes for us.
As long as you are going along with your excuses, your stories and beliefs, and you make the outcomes you want negotiable, you are not operating in your full power. You’re not operating at your full creative potential.
We all have excuses and they are habitual. You use your excuses all the time.
Your habits hold the structure you are in. Your habits & behaviors maintain your structure in place. Your excuses are habits that keep you in your “victim” structure where you resolve your psychological tension, where you react, where you keep buying into your beliefs and reactions.
Your excuses are the segue way, the gateway where you buy into what’s coming up for you. This is a habit!
You have a habit of buying into your stories and that perpetuates you being in a “victim” structure, orientation and way of operating where you believe life happens to you. You are at the mercy of life.
