Creating a Relationship Vision Board or a Couples Vision Board is a fun activity that you can do with your spouse or partner to deepen the bonding you have. It can rekindle what drew the two of you together in the first place, inspire you to come up with new goals and dreams that you get to co-create together, it opens up communication on what your values are and what they mean and can add a greater understanding and insight for each other as well as how you work together as a “dynamic duo” to love and support each other in your combined endeavors.
The beauty of making one of these is that it is completely flexible and you can add to it and/or change it whenever you want. There is no right or wrong way of doing this. You get to choose together how you want it to be.
Sit down with you partner and both of you come up with an individual list of 10 – 15 of the most important values you have for being in your current relationship. This will take about 3- 5 minutes.
Here’s an example of a list:
- Wealth & Financial Freedom
- Compassion & Caring
- Commitment & Loyalty
- Passion, Sexuality & Sensuality
- Personal Growth & Development
Once you have both come up with your individual lists, then spend some quality time sharing what you came up with. Choose which one of you wants to go first, then state what each item is on your list, why it’s important to you and what does it mean to you. Go through this process till you have covered every item on your list and then have your partner do the same.
This is a great exercise for both of you to get insights and listen to what your partner has to say. Even though you both may have the same items on your respective lists, you may be surprised to discover that what you mean or value about an item is different from what your partner means and/or values. This will help you both in expanding your awareness about what’s important and why. By all means if you have additional insights about some of the points on your partner’s list, open up your discussion to include your comments once your partner has finished with their list and invite your partner to do the same for you.
Furthermore, when you do this exercise are there any items missing that you’d like to include that are not on either of your lists? If you’ve not included things like “Kindness, Happiness, Playfulness, Health & Wellness, Financial Freedom, Consciousness, Art & Music, Knowledge & Education” etc. then create another list with these additional items on it.
Once you have your finalized lists of values and you’ve finished your discussion create an overall Relationship statement about the type of relationship that you both want:
Here’s an example:
“We have a long and happy life together, where we unconditionally support each other in making one another’s plans and dreams come true. We have a joyful, loving and passionate relationship with the freedom and means to do what we want. We have the success, financial freedom, and great health to be able to travel the world and do whatever we choose.”
Now do this for the following areas (see below) of your relationship with your partner. If you don’t want to include all of these items, remove the ones you don’t want or if you wish to add to this list add your own items.
- Health & Wellness (Physical, Mental & Emotional)
- Sexuality & Sensuality
- Wealth & Financial Freedom
- House (Your primary home where you reside)
- Vacations & Travel
- Personal Growth & Development/ Learning & Education
- Community/ Society
When you have both created all the statements/goals you want for each of these areas, then you can create your Vision Board.
You will need the following items to create your Vision Board:
Poster Board – use plain white poster board or use a colored poster board of your choice
Scissors – to cut out your photos and any of your goal statements that you print up
Glue Sticks – (you can purchase either permanent glue sticks or repositionable glue sticks. I prefer repositionable glue so that you can change or alter your Vision Board photos and goal statements as your goals & dreams change or you complete certain goals and you want to add in new ones.)
Removable Glue Dots – These dots let you stick your Vision Board to your wall without damaging the surface or paint and can be removed easily
Felt Pens – you can use felt pens or Sharpies to write out your goal statements or if you prefer print them up on a printer
If you don’t already have these things at home or in your office, you can purchase all of these items from Staples, Office Depot, Amazon or a craft store like “Michael’s”
Printer or Access to a Printer – you will need access to a printer to print up any images and goal statements for your Vision Board.
Pictures – Choose pictures/images that represent your overall relationship and each of the different areas of your relationship that you want to depict. You can get these images from magazines or graphics that you print up from online photos or use some of your personal photos that you print up. Once you have them all, simply cut them out and position them on your board.
Lay out your poster board on a flat surface. Once you have all the pictures/images you want to use and your goal statements printed out and cut to size, arrange them on the poster board in the way that you both feel represents your goals the best.
E.g. you may decide to have the main Relationship statement in the center of the board with its corresponding image and then have the other areas like satellites in a large circle around the central Relationship theme.
Or you may choose to have Spirituality/God as the central theme and all the other statements/goals in a circle around this central Spiritual theme.
You and your partner get to choose what feels right for the two of you. Once you have everything in place, add the repositionable glue to all your images and statements so that they will now adhere to the board. Remember you can always change what you’ve created, so just have fun with the process!
Once your Vision Board is complete put it up on your wall where you can see it, so that it’s a wonderful reminder of your love & support for each other. It can also be used as an inspirational reminder when you need it, to follow through and take action for creating your dreams and goals.